in West Essex

Men's Mental Health

Feeling stressed, anxious, angry, depressed, life too busy, job and/or relationship problems? 

How comforting would it be to be able to talk to someone who understands we do and we can help.

2.7 million men in England currently have a mental health problem like depression, anxiety or stress and their situations have in recent years been exacerbated by the tough economic climate. Mind has previously found that 37% of men are feeling worried or low with the top three issues playing on their minds being job security, work and money.

Despite men and women experiencing mental health problems in roughly equal numbers, men are much less likely to be diagnosed and treated for it. The consequences of this can be fatal: out of 6,233 suicides in England in 2013, 75% were men (source ONS).

Quite often a main contributor of these actions is that men commonly find it hard to talk about any problems they are facing and when they do want to talk they don’t know who to talk to. We have a culture in this country stemming from historical times where some men think it’s seen as being weak or a failure to be able to talk when they are not coping. “Get on with it”, “Man up”, are phrases often used along with sticking to the British ‘stiff upper lip’. Now for some men this attitude is fine and works for them, but clearly this doesn’t work for all.

Paul Farmer, Chief Executive of Mind, said:

Sadly too many men wrongly believe that admitting mental distress makes them weak, and this kind of self-stigma can prevent them from seeking help and ultimately can cost lives. Compounding this alarming situation though is the fact that often when men do reach out for help the appropriate support is not there for them. 

You are not alone-anyone can experience life situations that ‘get on top of us’ and can affect how we feel, but it’s how we can cope better or ‘bounce back’ that’s important. We asked a variety of men how they cope with life’s stresses, click the picture to see their view:- 

  


So it’s time to make changes and how can you go about this?

Well for a start-you’re here reading this! Part of making changes is to acknowledge things aren’t right and you want things to be different-for the better.

There are two ways we can help, one is to have a look at our self-help section and see if any of the ideas work for you. The other is take up our professional services: individual therapy or workshops. For details of the individual therapy see here.

A recommendation by the Football Association is to engage in Mental Health First Aid, a recognised educational course designed to enable you to help people having a mental health problem, before professional help can arrive – just like traditional first aid training. Mind in West Essex offer these courses and more details can be found here.

We run workshops that look at stress, what causes it, how does this affect people and how to manage better. The length of these can be varied to suit demand, but 60-90 minutes is usual. We can run these on our premises or at a venue to suit purchaser, such as workplace. For details contact Mike on mellen@mindinwestessex.org.uk.

The other option is to visit your GP and talk through the options he can refer to. 

Whichever route you choose doesn’t matter, the important thing is if you feel you are not coping to do something about it-that isn’t being weak or being a failure, but is being strong knowing you are taking steps to feeling and coping better.

Suicidal Feelings?

If you have or are experiencing suicidal feelings, please click here for more information and resources that are available.


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